I recently spent a few days at a conference in Lancaster County, PA. I was there to coordinate a special needs program for the families attending. I was very excited to meet the father of one of the boys in the program. To my disappointment, the dad decided it was best not to bring his son, with the rest of his family, to the conference. I had a chance to speak at length with the father the second night of the conference. He knew, I was also the father of a child with special needs and asked me a few questions regarding my son and my family. After I answered some of his questions and shared some of my family’s story, I asked him some questions. It soon became apparent, why he decided not to bring his son. His son was not who he wanted him to be yet. It wasn’t that he didn’t wholeheartedly love his son, it was that he was unable to “fix” his son’s condition.
I remember getting the news of my son’s condition. He was two and a half and the neurologist told my wife and I that our son had “abnormalities in his brain”. As a father, how do you “fix” that?! How do you handle that statement?! I’m still figuring it out. But, I know for sure, you don’t “fix” it or “handle” it on your own. I learned you have to believe your child’s life has a purpose and plan, found in the One who created him; and second, you have to connect with others on the same journey.
As fathers, we want to fix things. To determine what went wrong and why. It comes with our role, protector and provider. But, some things in life can’t be “fixed’ by human hands or manly muscle. Dads, if you want to “fix” something, start by looking in the mirror and asking God the Father to show you your purpose and your child’s as well. Then, connect with some other dads who are traveling on the same road.
Rooting for you,