I am writing this blog out of my experience of being a dad with a son with special needs (i.e. cerebral palsy & autism).
I have come to realize over the past 9 years that it is me, more than my son, that has special needs. I have also noticed over the years, how difficult it is as a father to embrace your child’s special needs. As a father, you dream of the day when you can start taking your child to ball games, camping trips, Chuck E Cheese, their 1st dance, etc… And one day, walking your little girl down the aisle or welcoming your grandson into the world to carry on dad’sthe family name.
All fathers envision dreams for their children. I remember going fishing with my father and rummaging around the junk yard while he was repairing cars in his shop. I remember going to spring training games in south FL while growing up. I’ve taken my son to 2 baseball games where he’s lasted about 2 innings before he had to leave due to sensory/noise issues. When I take my son to the playground, he’s more concerned with the dogs in the park than the swings and he won’t stop asking strangers questions.
Long story short…I’ve come to realize that my son is different than I am and that he doesn’t necessarily have the same dreams and desires that I do. And that’s okay! He would rather watch the Big Game on tv than be there in person. I’m realizing, I need to embrace who my son is, instead of trying to make him into what I want him to be.
Dad’s have a lot of special needs that need to be worked through. My hope is that this blog will help start the conversation for dads to discuss their broken dreams with each other. And that their perspective might be changed to see the dreams living in their children.
From one dad to another,